Now You See It, Now You Don't

Monday, August 16, 2010

After secretly coveting sleek coiffures on stylish girls around town, I emailed my stylist and made an appointment for Friday the 13th. "Hi," I wrote, "I'd like to get bobbed."

I was long overdue for some type of change. While I had experimented with my hair on a fairly regular basis when I first moved to New York, a traumatic experience with a random stylist a few years ago paralyzed my hair choices. I don't have any pictures of my hair from that time, but he deciphered my request for a layered cut a la Jennifer Aniston from her "Friends" period- executed in hacker style by taking a chunk of my blunt, long hair and cutting down diagonally. It was the first time I left a salon in tears.

Years later, tired of the long look, I decided to get experimental again. On Friday the 13th of all dates! It all could have ended in tears again, but oh, the relief this time!


"Are you sure you want to do this?" my stylist asked, as she held her scissors over the hair that had taken years to grow long, now well past my shoulders... My thick, thick mane of hair- my blessing and curse.

"Just do it," I said. "It's just hair- it'll grow back if I end up hating it."

Snip! Snip!

That same night, I went to a rooftop party and no one recognized me.

"Oh my God," one friend exclaimed. "It's so shocking. All your hair- gone like that! How do you feel?"

I hadn't thought before about how much of our identities are wrapped up in something seemingly superficial such as hair. But hairstyles, much like the clothes we wear, the apartments we live in, the jobs we hold... these are things subject to sudden, abrupt changes. Possessions, outward trademarks of our selves, yes, but they are not what make us who we are, on a fundamental, untouchable level. I thought about hair in that instant, and for a few moments afterwards, how something such as a dramatic hair change- can be good for the soul.

Instead, I said "I think I like it..."

It's just hair, after all. Now you see it, now you don't.



What I wore with my new hair: Margiela dress, Forever21 sweater, Bloomingdales brand sandals and a deer charm necklace purchased in an antique shop in Maryland

P.S. Shout out to my new go-to hair stylist! Go see my stylist Jinhee - she does cuts and style out of her home, or will travel to you all at super affordable rates. What's not to love about that?

44 comments:

alexkeller said...

i LOVE it - you look amazing :)

WendyB said...

Looks great!

fabulous finds said...

love it! i too went for a short bob on friday the 13th...i added a little asymetrical touch to it...change is good...and you...my dear...look fabulous!

lisa said...

Such a gorgeous 'do!

Chic 'n Cheap Living said...

Looking good, esp. love the Margiela dress!

Wicked Halo said...

the new do looks really good! I had one of those big chop moments years ago, after unsucessfully trying to grow my hair for years (it's pretty curly, which is a real pain in the ass), I cut it short, and haven't looked back since

Reanna said...

Love love love it. The do suits you!

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Scientific Housewife said...

Looks great!

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

Love it! Very chic :)

Julia said...

it's beautiful! I've been thinking about chopping my hair off again but I've spent the last year and a half growing it out for no reason. something makes me not want to part with it just yet. haha.

Erika Sanchez said...

I love, love, love it. Think it looks great, you look fantastic!!!

A Stylized Hysteria said...

Fantastic hair cut! It looks so very, very awesome.

Poochie said...

You look lovely! Very fun.

carly said...

it looks amazing!
i love short hair.
but i'm in the process of growing mine out. i've never had long hair.

like you said it's only hair.
in my case i can cut it if i end up hating it!

Len♥reNeverM♥re said...

Yo are so brave!
It's always great to change our look & hairstyle! Fab*

InnyVinny said...

*SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEE*

I love it!!!!

Monique said...

I'm dyeing to cut my hair. This is the first time I've had long hair and i miss the fresh loose feeling of a newly cropped bob. Yours look fab!!
xo M

drollgirl said...

i think it looks sleek, sexy and sophisticated! sometimes it is so worth the risk, as long is the stylist is a good one! well done!

Zarna said...

this haircut looks great on you!!! love it!

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Gabbi said...

Your hair looks amazing D... and definitely know what you mean about hair and how it can very much alter your being somehow! I cut mine short about 10 years ago and felt so very stylish... and I don't know if it was my imagination but I also felt that people treated me differently. Women more nice, men less pervy? :) I'm a dork, but I swear it felt that way.

je said...

you hair looks fantastic, at least you can cut it and it still has so much volume!

misslikey said...

looks great on you. I also have bob for 2 months now. life is so much easier with shorter hair
xoxo

MizzJ said...

I think there have been studies that show that women are perceived very differently depending on their hairstyle! Yours is soo different than before and I think it's a great change! You look more sophisticated and it highlights your face.

College Girl said...

Looks cute on you! :)

Miss Molly said...

really love it! you look fab!


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Cindy Whitehead said...

I was wondering if we would get to see pics soon after I saw your tweet. I love it - you look amazing! Congratulations! (Fun following you on twitter) (-:

Wrecked Stellar said...

Hey D! I love the new cut- it's super chic! And you're right- it's just hair and it'll grow back - that's the beauty of experimentation! Love your rooftop party look too! xo, mel

Jillian said...

i love it i love it i love it! it's gorgeous on you... your face pops!

<3

nicole said...

D! I love your hair! It's such a dramatic yet refreshing change! Your face shape carries a bob well, whereas for me, it would emphasize the roundness of my face (read: fat face). I love that Margiela dress and your sandals. It's true what you say about hair because I feel different after I had mine done. But different in a good way. I think it's good to experiment and try new things with our hair (esp while we're young) because it's part of finding ourselves and discovering who we are. Ok, I swear I don't normally sound so philosophical haha.

That aside, you look great and I look forward to your outfit posts feature your new 'do!

P.S. Thanks for the blogroll link! xo

Shop N' Chomp said...

Cute haircut and sandals! I've been thinking of cutting my hair too but haven't been gutsy enough to pull the trigger. =\

pearl said...

pretty sweater!

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Kristin said...

Holy cow. You look incredible. LOVE the new 'do!

Syed said...

I think it looks fabulous! And I do love that dress.

Alyssa said...

Love the hair! Very sleek.

Taryn said...

It turned out great! you look totally chic...I think this is an awesome change for fall :)

Josephine said...

Deariem the hair is magnificent: it gives you a fierce look that would be so hard to obtain otherwise.

Denise@Swelle said...

I love it! It's very chic and you still look like you. You've got fantastic hair and can afford to be fearless with it. x

Piper (DailyDivaDish) said...

That cut looks beautiful on you!
XO Piper

M said...

the cut looks great on you!
I always love drastic hair changes, I had long-ish hair for a while and after a string of very sharp short looks, now I'm growing it back and also dyed it for the first time so its a big change, for some reason I find it invigorating to change so noticeably.

xx
Mariel
http://marielscastle.blogspot.com

Caroline said...

I love the new hair!! I cut off 10 inches last year ... I almost cried and have been trying to grow it back ever since. Maybe I should try out your stylist ... I need someone who can make me love my short hair :)

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I love those shoes!! Your blog title is so cute!

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Paulina said...

D, the hair looks AMAZING! You look GREAT.

Vyque said...

oh look, this is when you cut your hair! You look amaze!

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